A Porn Star Kind of Day

So some events have happened to me recently that I have not liked at all.  I’ll start with the second one first.

Just yesterday I was in downtown Naperville with my friends and as we were crossing the street we heard from behind us “Hey babe, check out that ass” and a whistle.  Yes that whistle, the ones the cartoon coyotes in Zoot Suits make.  I was furious.  That’s just disgusting and I don’t care if it wasn’t directed at me, it doesn’t matter.  To address a woman like that is revolting.

The other incident is when I went to wash my car just the other week.  The house kiddie corner from us is now a bachelor pad.  The first two guys that moved in are nice, just quiet and keep to themselves.  Now they have a minimum of 6 cars in the driveway every day, if not more and some of the guys over there aren’t quite as quiet.  I went out to wash my car, as I do every weekend when the weather is nice enough.  I don’t wear anything scandalous, I’m in shorts and a T-shirt.  Sometimes when it gets really really hot, I’m talking 95 or higher with almost 100% humidity, I’ll wear a bikini top but only go out when my dad is out there with me to avoid putting myself in a situation where grown men shout out of car window at me like baboons.

Anyway, I’m washing my car fully clothed and some of the guests of my neighbors came out from the garage, walked to the end of the driveway to watch me wash my freaking car!  I guess I was having a porn kind of day or something because I felt like I was putting on some sort of show!  Seriously!?  Was that necessary??  I wasn’t dousing myself in water, I wasn’t stripping down, I wasn’t sticking my butt out as I bent over, I wasn’t showing anything, but they treated me as though I was performing a strip tease in my driveway!  It made me feel awful.  That’s the moment when a simple check out which could be a compliment turns into something that is degrading, making me feel like a  sexual object rather than a person.

I completely understand men will check out women and women will check out men, and sometimes you present yourself in a way that you might get more glances, for example a woman in a bikini top or a man shirtless.  I’ve checked out guys before and I’ve seen guys check me out and my friends out with just a simple quick glance, nothing creepy or not with a long stare or anything like that.  However it is disgusting when a simple “check out” turns into shouting explicit thing out car windows or hooting or whistling or watching someone from a driveway!  Come on!!  That is really disgusting and not classy at all.  Ladies, I’m not excusing you from this either because it is just as disgusting and distasteful when you do it too.

So go ahead, check out someone of the opposite sex or same sex, but don’t treat them like they are solely a sexual object there for your viewing pleasure.  That will make the other person feel like crap and it’s degrading, whether a man or a woman is doing it.  Just think about it next time you go to check someone out.

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